Honor your Parents

In the Torah, we are commanded to respect our parents: "Your mother and father shall you revere and my Sabbaths shall you keep. I am HaShem your God" Vayikra 19:3. The Baal HaTurim quoting from the Talmud also says "Three partners create each person--father, mother and God." A lack of respect for one partner could mean a lack of respect for God. Honoring one's parents also teaches one how to honor God.

There are responsibilities incumbent for each side: parents must treat their children with respect, and teach them how to be in the world. If your parents lacked in this part of your upbringing, due to challenges they faced, it doesn't condone their behavior, but there is still the aspect of what they taught you in how to be and act in the world. Sometimes we learn how to be human in spite of our parents' behavior towards us, but most often, we learn how to relate to the world from their lessons. We all do the best we can!